Most of us were taught to think our way out of discomfort — to analyze, fix, or improve ourselves until things feel better.
This space offers something different.
Unbecoming is not about becoming calmer, more healed, or more evolved.
It’s about gently unraveling the effort of trying to be someone else.
This page is simply a place to begin.
What happens next:
When you enter here, you’ll receive:
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A short, body-based inventory designed to help you notice how your nervous system has been responding to your life — without diagnosing or fixing
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Occasional letters and reflections that accompany this work over time
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Invitations to explore more deeply, only if and when it feels useful
There’s nothing to complete and nothing to keep up with.
You’re welcome to move slowly, skip what doesn’t resonate, or pause entirely.
 The Body Wisdom Inventory
Your body has been adapting long before your mind tried to make sense of things.
This brief inventory is not an assessment and not a measure of how well you’re doing.
It’s a simple practice of noticing how safety, stress, connection, and effort show up in your body right now.
Many people find that naming these patterns brings relief because something finally feels seen.
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 Begin Here
You’ll also receive occasional letters from me. You can unsubscribe at any time.
I'm Lacey Kelly, a therapist, writer, and guide.
My work draws from attachment theory, nervous system science, and years of clinical experience, but it’s shaped most deeply by the places where those frameworks fall short.
Unbecoming grew out of a simple question:
What if it's not about becoming someone new, but unbecoming everything that was never you to begin with?
I’ll meet you in the process.
