The Unbecoming Archive

When Being Human Gets Treated Like a Disorder

We are living in a time where more people than ever are in therapy, talking about mental health, and learning how to understand themselves.

Yet, many of them still feel like something is missing because some forms of suffering aren’t problems to solve.

They’re expressions of being human.

When those experiences are approached primarily through a clinical model, people can start to feel like they are perpetually unfinished. They are always working on themselves, always managing something, and always trying to arrive somewhere they never quite reach. That exhaustion is built into the premise itself.

It's Okay To Be Human In Relationships

I’ve been noticing something lately in the way people talk about relationships.

There’s a tension in it. A kind of tightness.

We talk a lot now about values, needs, and boundaries, and those things absolutely matter. Values shape how we live. Needs create vulnerability. Boundaries create safety and clarity around participation. They are real parts of how relationships function. There’s also been a shift beneath that language, one that feels increasingly common.

It’s like relationships are supposed to operate perfectly now.

The Quiet Belief That Something Is Wrong With Us

Most people don’t move through life thinking something is wrong with them. It shows up differently.

A constant sense that life would feel better if they could just get themselves sorted out. Calmer. More secure. More healed. A feeling that with enough effort, something inside will finally settle.

The effort becomes normal. Improvement becomes direction. The possibility that nothing fundamental needs fixing rarely enters the conversation.

Underneath it sits an unchosen orientation:

I still need to become someone who feels okay to be.

What is Unbecoming?

This episode is an introduction to Unbecoming—what it is, how it came to be, and why it exists. Rather than offering another path of self-improvement or personal optimization, Unbecoming You is an invitation to step out of the endless cycle of becoming.

The Human Condition Exists Within Wholeness

This episode speaks to a persistent confusion many people carry: the belief that wholeness must exclude struggle, contradiction, or difficulty in order to be real.

When Therapy Loses the Soul

This episode reflects on the modern mental health model — where it helps, where it falls short, and why many people are bringing deeply human struggles into therapeutic spaces that were never designed to hold them.