The Unbecoming Archive
Reflections on wholeness, unbecoming, and humanness written from inside the process.
Many people arrive at healing through insight. They learn the language of attachment, name their patterns with impressive precision, and trace their reactions back through family systems and early experience. They can explain themselves clearly. They understand why they are the way they are. For a w...
I want to answer a question that came in from someone who’s started the process of unbecoming. It’s a really good question, and I suspect it’s one that comes up for a lot of people:
“I’ve done a lot of therapy, journaling, and self-work. I intellectually understand myself pretty well, but I still...
I spent most of my twenties trying to assemble a better version of myself. I kept a running inventory of my flaws, a mental record of every awkward comment, every relational misstep, every pattern I wished I could smooth out and improve. My inner world felt like a construction site. I collected ther...
The Unbecoming Hub Podcast
This podcast is a place where I live the process alongside you.
Some episodes are unstructured reflections. Some are carefully scripted. Others are more educational or exploratory. Whatever form they take, they aren’t designed to be anything in particular. They’re honest expressions of where I am—thinking, noticing, questioning, and moving through this prcoess in real time.
I’m your host, Lacey K. Kelly, and each week we explore another facet of the process of unbecoming as something lived through relationships, seasons of change, moments of clarity, and moments of uncertainty.
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