The Principles of Unbecoming

The philosophical foundation for Unbecoming.

Rather than teaching techniques for change or strategies for self-improvement, this course works at the level of assumption. It examines the beliefs that shape how people relate to themselves: ideas about wholeness, identity, time, effort, resolution, and what it means to be human. These assumptions often operate beneath awareness, organizing experience long before conscious intention enters the picture.

Each principle is offered through orientation, experiential practices, teaching, and reflection, allowing insight to emerge through contact rather than instruction. The course creates space for experience to be met without being turned into proof—proof of progress, proof of deficiency, or proof of worth.

This work is for those who feel the exhaustion of relating to themselves as a project, even after years of insight or effort, and who sense that something more fundamental is being asked for: not becoming someone else, but releasing the pressure to be anything other than what is already here.