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Essays, episodes, and reflections — one new piece of each, every week.

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THIS WEEK'S ESSAY

When Everything is Trauma, What is Human?

The field of trauma therapy has given us an increasingly expansive framework for understanding human suffering — one that now risks explaining nearly all adult difficulty as the consequence of a damaged childhood. This essay examines concept creep, the phenomenon by which clinical terms gradually lower their threshold to include less extreme experiences, and traces how it has reshaped the way people understand their own stories. 

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THIS WEEK'S EPISODE

Is Everything Trauma?

The word trauma has changed. What once described an experience that overwhelmed the nervous system beyond its capacity to cope now appears on social media infographics as an explanation for low self-worth, relationship struggles, and everyday emotional difficulty. In this episode, we look at concept creep — the gradual lowering of the threshold for harm-related language — and ask what it actually costs us to call the friction of being human a disorder.

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THIS WEEK'S REFLECTION

You Are Allowed to Have Been Affected

For when something was hard — and you're not sure you have the right word for it, the right label, or enough of a reason for it to count. This meditation asks you to set down the search for a verdict and simply acknowledge what you lived through. You don't need a diagnosis, a guilty party, or anyone's agreement for your experience to be real.

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Essays

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The Defense Was Never the Problem Mar 14, 2026

Most of us are operating under a premise we don’t even notice anymore. It is so pervasive, so woven into the water we swim in, that it just feels like the truth.

The premise is this: Something is missing.

Something from our lives is missing. Something from within ourselves is missing. And if we co...

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You Don’t Lose Capacity When You’re Overwhelmed Mar 14, 2026

Last week, I shared a podcast and essay about emotional maturity and emotional distance, and one of you asked a very practical question: What do you actually do in the moment when you feel like you’re about to lose it? When everything inside you is spilling over, when you’re reacting in ways you kno...

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Emotional Distance Is Not Emotional Maturity Feb 24, 2026

Sometimes I don’t realize I’m burned out until it’s already too late.

It’s less like noticing and more like waking up from a dizzying dream to find myself completely empty and suddenly on the edge of explosion.

This happened a few weeks ago with my husband. Everything was fine—until it wasn’t.

I ...

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