The Unbecoming Archive
Reflections on wholeness, unbecoming, and humanness written from inside the process.
You are a child of God before you are a child of mine.
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The words came to me in a yoga class,
shortly after I became pregnant with you.
A wave of surrender washed over me.
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I’m not doing any of this.
I’m not controlling any of this.
I am but a witness to your beautiful unfolding.
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Why w...
Your hands were so tiny,
your fingers barely wrapping
around one of mine.
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Now I look at you
and your hands reach for my face—
holding me,
studying my lips.
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I see your thoughts spinning,
calculating,
learning.
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Your hands—
reaching for my face,
your palms as big as my cheeks now.
...When I watch you sleep, my heart fills with both love and fear.
You look so peaceful, so content — safe and trusting in my arms.
I see innocence in your face, hear it in your breath.
There is not a single cell in your body holding stress or tension.
You are completely at ease.
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When I watch y...
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