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E.16 - Unhook Your Consciousness
In this episode of The Unbecoming Hub Podcast, we explore the profound and often elusive experience of true rest. We live in a culture that treats the body and mind as projects to be managed, where even our attempts...
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E.15 - Forgetting, Remembering, and the Doorway of Shame
There is a rhythm to being human that we spend a lot of time trying to outsmart: we forget, and then we remember. And then we forget again.
In the self-help world, forgetting is usually framed as a failure. If you...
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E.14 - What If Your Patterns Aren't Evidence You Were Failed?
The self-help world has a subtle implication: if you had just had a more attuned caregiver, you wouldn't have the patterns you have today. You wouldn't struggle with connection. You wouldn't have these...
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E.13 - Why Your "Toxic Traits" Are Actually Just Outdated Adaptations
If you are exhausted from trying to fix your "toxic traits," you need to hear this.
The things you go to therapy to fix—the people-pleasing, the emotional shutdown, the hypervigilance—are not malfunctions. They are...
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E.12 - Nothing Essential Is Missing
This episode was inspired by Lacey's latest revision of The Process of Unbecoming — and the realization that kept crystallizing through that process: we are born with everything we need to navigate life. The problem...
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E.11 - How To Stay With Yourself When You're Overwhlemed
After last week’s conversation about emotional maturity and emotional distance, a question came in: What do you actually do in the moment when you feel overwhelmed or about to react?
In this episode, we explore why...
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E.10 - You Can’t Therapy Yourself Out of Being Human
Emotional maturity is often framed as staying calm, choosing the right words, and regulating yourself before you speak. But what if that version of maturity is sometimes just emotional distance?
In this episode, I...
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E.09 - It's Okay To Be Human In Relationships
In this episode, Lacey explores the growing pressure on modern relationships to function perfectly — with fully aligned values, clearly expressed needs, and consistently respected boundaries — and how that pressure...
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E.08 - The Return of Slowing Down
In this episode, Lacey reflects on the experience of internal speed — the feeling that your mind and body are still moving fast even when life has slowed down. Using personal moments from motherhood, she explores how...
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E.07 - To Be Human Is To Need
In this episode, I explore something that keeps surfacing in my clinical work: the resistance many of us feel toward admitting that we need relationship.
There’s a cultural narrative that equates needing with weakness...
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E.06 - Psyche and Cupid
This episode turns to the myth of Psyche and Cupid—not as a symbolic puzzle to decode, but as a lived map of human relationship, trust, and rupture.
Rather than treating the myth as a story about love rewarded or...
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E.05 - When Therapy Loses the Soul
In this episode, Lacey reflects on the modern mental health model — where it helps, where it falls short, and why many people are bringing deeply human struggles into therapeutic spaces that were never designed to...
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