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E. 21 - You Are Not Stuck — What the Science Actually Says About Stress and the Nervous System (Part 2 of 2)
This is Part 2 of a two-part series on the language of trauma, the science of stress, and what it actually means to be human right now. Start with Part 1 if you haven't yet.
If you’ve spent any time in the therapy or...
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E. 20 - Is Everything Trauma? Concept Creep and the Human Experience (Part 1 of 2)
This is Part 1 of a two-part series on the language of trauma, the science of stress, and what it actually means to be human right now. Part 2 drops next week.
Are we pathologizing the normal human experience? In this...
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E.19 - The Tiniest Cell
Your body built itself without your help. Every nerve, every vein, every cell — complete before you did a single thing to earn it.
This episode is a reflective one. Lacey sits down to record without a polished topic...
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E. 18 - The Medicine for Shame (Why We Need Awe)
You cannot feel shame and awe at the same time.
In this episode, we explore the unexpected relationship between the emotion of shame and the experience of awe. If shame is the biological mechanism that keeps us stuck...
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E.17 - The Loneliness Was Never About You
If you are exhausted from doing the "work" and still feeling like there is something fundamentally wrong with you, this episode is for you.
We have been sold a narrative that if we feel lonely, tired, or unhappy, it...
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E.16 - Unhook Your Consciousness
In this episode of The Unbecoming Hub Podcast, we explore the profound and often elusive experience of true rest. We live in a culture that treats the body and mind as projects to be managed, where even our attempts...
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E.15 - Forgetting, Remembering, and the Doorway of Shame
There is a rhythm to being human that we spend a lot of time trying to outsmart: we forget, and then we remember. And then we forget again.
In the self-help world, forgetting is usually framed as a failure. If you...
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E.14 - What If Your Patterns Aren't Evidence You Were Failed?
The self-help world has a subtle implication: if you had just had a more attuned caregiver, you wouldn't have the patterns you have today. You wouldn't struggle with connection. You wouldn't have these...
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E.13 - Why Your "Toxic Traits" Are Actually Just Outdated Adaptations
If you are exhausted from trying to fix your "toxic traits," you need to hear this.
The things you go to therapy to fix—the people-pleasing, the emotional shutdown, the hypervigilance—are not malfunctions. They are...
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E.12 - Nothing Essential Is Missing
This episode was inspired by Lacey's latest revision of The Process of Unbecoming — and the realization that kept crystallizing through that process: we are born with everything we need to navigate life. The problem...
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E.11 - How To Stay With Yourself When You're Overwhlemed
After last week’s conversation about emotional maturity and emotional distance, a question came in: What do you actually do in the moment when you feel overwhelmed or about to react?
In this episode, we explore why...
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E.10 - You Can’t Therapy Yourself Out of Being Human
Emotional maturity is often framed as staying calm, choosing the right words, and regulating yourself before you speak. But what if that version of maturity is sometimes just emotional distance?
In this episode, I...
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